Key Interventions

In this therapy session, Dr. Ken and Dr. Julie discuss Julie’s attachment compensations and their connection to her attachment blueprint. They explore Julie’s experiences with attachment losses and grief, focusing on how she coped between sessions. Julie reflects on her realization that she had never allowed herself to acknowledge past losses, leading to a heavy emotional burden. 

The conversation delves into Julie’s compensatory behaviour, where she sought to protect others, especially her children, from the pain she experienced. She admits to creating a world without pain, suffering, or sadness for her loved ones, trying to fulfill their needs to avoid confronting her losses. 

Ken guides Julie through examining her compensations chronologically, from childhood to adulthood, emphasizing how these patterns manifest in various relationships. Julie shares instances of parenting her younger sister, controlling dynamics with friends, and her role in her marriage with George, where she prioritized his needs over her own.

The discussion extends to Julie’s sexual experiences and how she compensated in intimate relationships, aiming to please her partners and ensure their happiness to secure her own. The conversation also touches on Julie’s tendency to deny her own needs and sacrifice herself for others, as well as the impact on her physical well-being.

Overall, the session sheds light on Julie’s deep-seated compensatory patterns, her struggles with self-denial, and the underlying belief that meeting others’ needs will secure her own well-being.