APP #1 – Louise
Attachment Processing Process
Julie’s attachment blueprint incident involving her sister, Louise, is processed in this session. Julie begins by sharing positive changes she has experienced since the last session, particularly in her relationship with her eight-year-old self, who sees Julie as her secure attachment figure.
They discuss the progress made in letting go of old anchors and original agreements, allowing Julie and her eight-year-old self to form new, healthier connections. Julie shares insights from her journaling, revealing her understanding of the importance of being a secure base for the eight-year-old self.
Dr. Ken explores Julie’s attachment activation related to the past incident, and Julie expresses that the incident feels distant and doesn’t evoke the same anxieties. They discuss the transformation from safety-based interactions to connection-focused ones.
Julie reflects on her journal entries, uncovering her eight-year-old self ‘s desires for a maternal figure and the realization that her eight-year-old self wants Julie herself to be that figure. She acknowledges the shift in her perception, allowing her to respond more attentively to her eight-year-old self’s needs.
The conversation transitions to Louise, Julie’s sister, and her role in Julie’s life. Julie discovers a pattern of trying to parent and protect Louise, realizing that she never allowed herself to be a sister. This pattern extended into Julie’s relationships and her profession as a cardiothoracic surgeon.
Dr. Ken guides Julie through processing emotions related to her sister Louise, addressing feelings of responsibility and the need to protect. Julie experiences a profound realization that Louise has her secure attachment circle and doesn’t need Julie to rescue her. This insight leads to a sense of relief and a recognition of the depth of their connection.
The session concludes with a visualization exercise, allowing Julie to witness her eight-year-old self and Louise connecting in their secure selves, embracing their sisterhood, and experiencing joy. Julie feels physical release, particularly in her hip, symbolizing the letting go of long-held responsibilities.
As Julie witnesses Louise having her own attachment room, Dr. Ken helps her explore feelings of happiness, joy, and peace. The session ends with the acknowledgment that things are as they should be, bringing a sense of calmness and acceptance.
The visualization reveals Julie and Louise’s desire to share, trade, and be true sisters, finally experiencing the closeness they missed in their childhood. Julie acknowledges a readiness to let go of her previous need to take care of Louise, trusting that Louise can now look after herself.
Overall, the session showcases Julie’s journey towards healing and forming healthier attachments, both with her eight-year-old self and her relationship with her sister.